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What to Expect When You’re Expecting, The Baby Whisperer, Healthy Sleep Habits, and this list of parenting books could go on and on. Most of the new parents I know are familiar with a least a couple of the above mentioned titles. New parents do a lot of preparing, reading, wondering and thinking about how to do right by their babies. Although, truth be told there’s a tonne of different ways to be a great parent, and all the answers can’t be found in one particular book. There is, after all, something to be said for parental instinct, right?

Anyway, I was no different; I planned and read about how to be a good mommy and when Niko was born I felt ready. I had a plan for feeding, for sleeping, and for parenting in general. It’s just that the length of what I’d planned for (babyhood) seems to be coming to an end. Yes, (not so little) Niko has entered a new realm of being, and is verging on crawling, walking and toddlerhood. He can’t crawl just yet, but if he’s got his eye on something and it’s within a few feet, he can certainly maneuver over to it, and will inevitably put whatever it is he’s after in his mouth. I guess that’s how they discover and learn though, right?

So,what about life after the baby stage? No one told me to prepare for this. All the focus was on preparing for the “baby”, but what about preparing for parenting a toddler? Niko’s  started a lovely new routine of screaming when something’s taken away from him. You may be wondering why I would take anything from a baby, but when he’s got his hands (and mouth) on the TV remote he always ends up changing the channel or messing with the volume. Or if it’s the cordless phone, he usually ends up turning it on between mouthfuls and dialing random numbers (I guess only my phone bill will reveal the success [or not] of his dialing). So yes, I take things from him and he starts  in full force with the drama. But my point is, that I don’t particularly feel ready for this stage of parenthood. This stage where he can wiggle around and move. This stage where he’s discovering everything and subsequently chewing on everything as well. (Hello, weird little alive blue bug! Yes, that’s what I found in his mouth the other day, but that’s another story.)

This stage certainly takes a lot more effort – not that parenting a baby doesn’t take effort, because it does. It’s just that when Niko was smaller I could pretty much plan around him. Now that he’s teetering on the edge of toddlerdom, anything and nothing is possible all at the same time. They always say to prepare yourself for parenthood, and I did. But what about life after the first nine months? I’m not feeling a huge push from the general public, as I did when preparing for the “baby”, to plan for parenting beyond the baby days. But maybe I should be. Or maybe I should just start hitting the books again…


Upon becoming (first time) parents we have been inundated with information about how to raise a baby, and on the right and wrong ways to do things.  This information has come from various sources: the best intentions of friends and family, health care workers, magazines, the internet, books, etc. and we as parents are left to sift through and choose the pieces that we see as the best fit for our own parenting style. But what is a parenting style? How are we supposed to know which information to follow, after all each baby is unique and what works like a charm for one may be total bunk for the other! Actually, to keep myself sane I vowed not to read up too much on parenting, to sort of just go with the flow and try to follow my baby’s needs in order to keep him happy: that was until this week.

About four trusted people recommended the book The Baby Whisperer to me.  So, seeing as I had not bought any parenting books and Niko had hit the three month mark I figured this might be a good guide to help me sort out some sort of a routine. I’ve heard that by three months a lot of babies will start to sleep through the night, so why not back up my practice with a little research, some advice from an expert? With The Baby Whisperer under my belt of holiday purchases I went home and started reading. This book is a little daunting at first as it is about 300 pages of small type and no pictures, but once I started reading it, I found it easy to read and enjoyed the bits of humour peppered throughout the text.

Anyway, one of the techniques describes giving your baby a “dream feed”, which means waking him up around 10 or 11pm and feeding him in his sleep. Yes, in his sleep! The theory being that the little dear will “tank up” and be able to do the long stretch of sleep that mommy and daddy both used to enjoy in the pre-Niko days.  So “tank up” we did and sure enough after a bit of encouragement, Niko did just start eating in his sleep, though it was a little slow going at first.  After his tank was full, I lied him down and kept my fingers crossed that the next time we saw each other would be in the morning! And time passed, when what do I wake up to but Niko’s crying (which is really just like a living, breathing alarm clock!).  “Yah!” I think to myself! “We did it! He made it through the night!” Well, I should have held off on my little parent party because when I looked at the clock it was only 1:15! What?! Yes, 1:15am, his earliest wake to date! So much for the “dream feed”, all it really seemed to do was interrupt my dreams! But, the book says establishing a sleeping through the night routine takes time and patience and that I should not give up! So, on we forge, continuing to sew this patchwork quilt of parenting, together.

Note: Did you notice that everyone seems to be “whispering” these days? As far as I can tell it started with that novel/movie “The Horse Whisperer”, then came along that TV show “The Ghost Whisperer”, then my beloved Cesar “The Dog Whisperer”, and now even “The Baby Whisperer”. What is up with all this whispering?!


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