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Babies sure do go through many ups and downs in their sleeping patterns. I mean just when I think Niko is “sleeping through the night” it won’t be but a few days or maybe weeks (if I’m lucky), that he will start waking in the night again. And you know what? I somewhat came to accept this waking pattern over the last month or so. First he was waking at 1am and 6am, not bad: I would hear him, feed him and put him back to bed. This went on for a few weeks, then within the last couple of weeks he started waking at midnight, 3am, 6am, 8am, and I just sort of went with it, in a waking daze: feeding him and putting him back to bed, that was until last night. Here’s how a conversation went in our house yesterday.

Borys: How’s Niko sleeping these days? Is he still waking up at 1am? (Note: Yes you read that right! Daddy has no idea what goes on in the night! He just doesn’t hear him, partially due to the fact that he knows I’m listening for him. But still! WOW!)

Me: 1am!? He’s now waking up even more! 12, 3, 6, 8…

B: What? Oh my gosh! Are you serious?

Me: Yes! But you know what? When I go back to work (sniff, sniff…), we’re sharing this duty: one night me, one night you…

B: I know, I know…

But this convo. got me thinking. Niko, come on! I mean you’re a grown baby: waking up this often is not a necessity any more. And then I started wondering if I was inadvertently supporting this behaviour by feeding him every time he wakes. Bad Mommy, bad mommy! In talking with one of my friends over the weekend she told me her two year old son wakes up like clockwork five times every night! Yikes! I don’t want that under my repertoire of experience, so last night I made a conscious decision to try to put an end to these night wakings. I vowed that if I heard him, I would just let him fuss it out (he doesn’t actually cry too much when he wakes, which again leads me to believe he is not really hungry, just waking and waiting to go back to sleep) until he hit the zzzs once again.

So, last night went like this: fed him at midnight, but I was still up anyway. Went to bed. Heard him around 3am. Listened to him fuss for about five minutes or so, and then he went back to sleep and I didn’t even get out of bed: just a little long distance and quiet parenting from down the hall. And once he went back to sleep he didn’t wake again ’til 8am! What a good little monkey. This makes me think that if I dont’ go to see him and don’t interrupt him, he is more likely to fall back into a deep sleep and sleep for longer. However, as with most things baby related, time will tell, and it’s bound to change. But I’m trying this technique again tonight, and the next night, and the next night, and the next… I mean really, let’s just get this kid on a good sleeping routine!


You know in movies when something really good happens and you see the sky open up, the light shine through and a choir of angels starts singing? Well, that’s how I felt this morning, when after taking a double take at the clock I was actually correct in seeing that it read 6:55 am! Whaaaaaaat!? Yes it is true. Munchkin Niko Man slept for 11 hours straight last night: his longest stretch ever! At which time I got up, fed him and he fell back to sleep for another two. Sweet dreams little man.

I, on the other hand, had not gone to bed at 8 pm like he had – try closer to 1 am for Mommy. And why did I stay up so late, you (and I) may wonder? I guess it was the double combo pull of Daddy being up and watching SNL, that lured me in to the wee hours of Sunday morning. However, even six straight hours is record breaking for me these days.

While Niko’s sleep patterns are still proving to be irregular, these longer stretches are happening more frequently: so fingers crossed that this is just the beginning of a new era!


You know, I often feel really lucky that Niko sleeps so well in the night.  A lot of the times he makes it from 10 or 11pm to 4 or 5 am. However, last night my luck seemed to have run out! He was up like clockwork every two hours and hungry! What is going on? Maybe he is going through a growth spurt? I don’t know.  But ironically enough, today he has been napping for 3 hours (or more) straight! It seems like his clock is off for this last 24 hour cycle! At least I don’t have to worry about sleeping in or missing appointments: having Niko is like having a living, breathing alarm clock sleeping right next to me!


babyHow much do babies need to sleep? And how am I supposed to know the answer to this question?  At times I feel like there is some magical formula out there, and I am just searching for the ingredients to the recipe called The Right and Wrong Way to Raise a Baby.  But then when I really think about it, I realize that this magical formula can’t exist: there is no perfect way.  As time passes I guess I will gain confidence and develop and rely on my own instincts. But seriously, when do babies get on a schedule?

Right now Niko sleeps a lot, but over the past few days I have noticed a shift.  He is sleeping less and has more alert time. Last night I set my alarm for 4am and had planned to feed him then, but he had other plans and woke up hungry at 3am: maybe it had something to do with the time change. This morning he followed a similar pattern: he woke up hungry at 6:30 am and I had my alarm set for 8am. But what a smiley guy he was this when he woke; I have never seen him grin so much! I have to say, that the first few weeks with him have been amazing and getting to know this little man is so much fun.

But back to the main question: I wonder, is he ready to sleep through the night? I know if I look online I will come up with about a million websites offering me free advice.  Is he too young to try to do this now?  Probably the best thing to do is just listen to my baby. Won’t he tell me if he’s ready? Well, I just did a quick search and this is the first hit I came up with.  I guess he might still be a bit young for a full night’s rest…and who knew a full night’s rest in baby terms only meant 5 hours!?

Sleeping Through the Night

You have probably heard that babies should start “sleeping through the night” at about 2 to 4 months of age. What you must understand is that, for a new baby, a five-hour stretch is a full night. Many (but nowhere near all) babies at this age can sleep uninterrupted from midnight to 5 a.m. (Not that they always do.) A far cry from what you may have thought “sleeping through the night” meant!

What’s more, while the scientific definition of “sleeping through the night” is five hours, most of us wouldn’t consider that anywhere near a full night’s sleep for ourselves. Also, some of these sleep-through-the-nighters will suddenly begin waking more frequently, and it’s often a full year or even two until your little one will settle into a mature, all-night, every night sleep pattern. (http://babyparenting.about.com/cs/sleeping/a/newbornsleep.htm)



Borys and NikoWell, my mom has flown back to Toronto today. That means this Monday will be my first time alone as a mommy. After five weeks of help, I think I am pretty well prepared to take on the challenge! I will miss all the TLC and dinners, but know I can do it on my own now.

Since my mom left, Borys and I started discussing how we will divide up the housework. I think we set out a pretty good schedule. One thing I am loving is that on Friday and Saturday nights Borys takes care of the middle of the night feedings! This means that I get to sleep for a solid seven hours! Since we have had Niko home, Borys feeds him one bottle a day, so on the weekend nights he simply does this at 3 or 4 am! Sweet!


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