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Upon becoming (first time) parents we have been inundated with information about how to raise a baby, and on the right and wrong ways to do things.  This information has come from various sources: the best intentions of friends and family, health care workers, magazines, the internet, books, etc. and we as parents are left to sift through and choose the pieces that we see as the best fit for our own parenting style. But what is a parenting style? How are we supposed to know which information to follow, after all each baby is unique and what works like a charm for one may be total bunk for the other! Actually, to keep myself sane I vowed not to read up too much on parenting, to sort of just go with the flow and try to follow my baby’s needs in order to keep him happy: that was until this week.

About four trusted people recommended the book The Baby Whisperer to me.  So, seeing as I had not bought any parenting books and Niko had hit the three month mark I figured this might be a good guide to help me sort out some sort of a routine. I’ve heard that by three months a lot of babies will start to sleep through the night, so why not back up my practice with a little research, some advice from an expert? With The Baby Whisperer under my belt of holiday purchases I went home and started reading. This book is a little daunting at first as it is about 300 pages of small type and no pictures, but once I started reading it, I found it easy to read and enjoyed the bits of humour peppered throughout the text.

Anyway, one of the techniques describes giving your baby a “dream feed”, which means waking him up around 10 or 11pm and feeding him in his sleep. Yes, in his sleep! The theory being that the little dear will “tank up” and be able to do the long stretch of sleep that mommy and daddy both used to enjoy in the pre-Niko days.  So “tank up” we did and sure enough after a bit of encouragement, Niko did just start eating in his sleep, though it was a little slow going at first.  After his tank was full, I lied him down and kept my fingers crossed that the next time we saw each other would be in the morning! And time passed, when what do I wake up to but Niko’s crying (which is really just like a living, breathing alarm clock!).  “Yah!” I think to myself! “We did it! He made it through the night!” Well, I should have held off on my little parent party because when I looked at the clock it was only 1:15! What?! Yes, 1:15am, his earliest wake to date! So much for the “dream feed”, all it really seemed to do was interrupt my dreams! But, the book says establishing a sleeping through the night routine takes time and patience and that I should not give up! So, on we forge, continuing to sew this patchwork quilt of parenting, together.

Note: Did you notice that everyone seems to be “whispering” these days? As far as I can tell it started with that novel/movie “The Horse Whisperer”, then came along that TV show “The Ghost Whisperer”, then my beloved Cesar “The Dog Whisperer”, and now even “The Baby Whisperer”. What is up with all this whispering?!


SleepingJust a quick follow up: on demand seems to be working out.  Niko demanded (and by demanded, I mean cried for) exactly eight feedings yesterday, and that is how many he was getting when I was waking him up anyway.  I think on demand is probably better because he is actually guaranteed to be hungry when he wakes up.  The only challenging part is not knowing exactly when he will wake: this makes planning things during the day a litte more difficult, but for now we will continue with his on demand schedule, and just hope for the best.


As I have mentioned before, being on maternity allows me the opportunity to indulge my addictive personality in the form of getting hooked on many new TV shows.  We upgraded our cable to Rogers on Demand which affords me, the viewer, the ability to watch (and become addicted to) many shows according to when it suits my schedule.  Since right now my schedule involves breastfeeding around the clock, Rogers on Demand has become my new BFF (best friend forever).  That said, this has inspired me to try Feeding on Demand; I jest, this is not the reason I am trying feeding on demand, I just liked the segue it provided.

Note: I just learned how to spell segue. I had tried “segway”, but it came up as a typo. Just another example of how easy the English language is to learn.

So, today is the first day that Niko and I are experimenting with feeding on demand.  When Niko was first born my lactation consultant told me to get eight feeds in a day; the only way this was feasible was by waking him up every two to three hours.  All in all, I liked waking him up as I could control the schedule, and knew exactly when he was going to eat.  Upon graduating from lactation school the consultant sent us on our merry way and told us we were ready for feeding on demand – which basically means I would feed him when he wakes up on his own; that is, when he wakes up crying it means it’s time for him to eat. This was just over four weeks ago.  Although she, and the public health nurse both told me to go for it, I have stuck with waking him up every two to three hours to ensure he is getting his eight feeds in and continues to gain weight.  However, over the last few days I have noticed that he is not as hungry when I wake him up.

We already do feeding on demand in the night and he usually goes to bed around midnight then wakes on his own at 3 or 4 am and then again sometime between 7 and 8 am.  This said, today we are trying feeding on demand during my waking hours.  As time ticks by, I wonder…when is this little munchkin going to wake up? His last feeding was at 7:30 am and it is currently 11:15: tick tock, tick tock, and I wait… If he doesn’t wake up by 11:30, I am going to go in there and pinch him or something. Well that might be a little cruel, but I think I will wake him and feed him.  Does that still count as feeding on demand? Probably not.

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